Anybody familiar with borderline personality disorder?

my wife has it. i've been researching it for months and it fits her to a T. she thought i was wonderful in the beginning and then was so impulsive she almost screwed up my life. she also was jealous of my kids and didn't want me to spend any time with them. then she got pregnant "by accident" and then freaked out and had an abortion. she was very verbally abusive and when i started yelling back i became the abuser. now she has left me and they say that borderlines will never be finished with you if you once gave them such unconditional love. that's what i'm afraid of. i moved on and am trying to get her out of my mind but she was also very ual and seductive like all borderlines but also very abusive. i think she will try to draw me back in after she has a few rebound relationships that prove that she still hasn't found love. they say they do that to. How do you get rid of a borderline? she thrives on the drama that's why i don't think i'm done with her after the divorce.